Many people appear to be well-wishers, but many are not. And this also applies to people who pretend to be our ‘friends’. While we may think they are our friends and want good things for us, as we want them to be, it turns out they weren’t our friends in the long run. This ultimately only leads to heartbreak and lack of confidence. So to help you better understand and judge people, here are five hidden signs that a friend isn’t really a friend, as psychologist Ziad Rumi shared on Instagram:
1. You feel tired either talking or spending time with them.
Being in the company of fake friends will drain you of their energy and this is an important sign that should not be ignored. Your body and nervous system subconsciously give you signals when you are not comfortable in someone’s presence. So, listen to your gut and follow your instincts.
2. Feeling like they don’t care about you
Have you often noticed that whenever you talk to your ‘friend’ about something that you are deeply passionate about or concerned about, they don’t actively listen to you unless it is Nothing happens to them. Well, this is a classic sign of people who don’t care about you and thus, aren’t your true friends. A true friend cares about your feelings and what makes you happy. They don’t dismiss or ignore your ideas or the things that are important to you.
3. They are not genuinely happy for you.
Instead of being genuinely happy for you and your success, fake friends find it really difficult to do so. And they may mask their displeasure with sarcastic jokes or comments that seem innocent on the surface but clearly show that they are jealous of your happiness.
4. They often criticize you, but it’s not to help you become a better person.
Their criticism is often meant to put you down or limit you–that’s what fake friends do. But, on the contrary, when true friends point out your mistakes, it helps you grow and become a better person. They’re not there to help you find solutions to your problems and pull you down — that’s something you can understand.
5. They are often self-centered.
Even when it should be about you, fake friends start talking about themselves to become the center of attention. This shows their masked jealousy, and one should try to stay away from such people.
Remember, the company you keep speaks volumes about you. And so, choose your friends wisely because they have a huge impact on your life. It is better to be alone than to be in the company of wrong people.
Your “best friend” may be using you! Watch out for these 5 signs